WEAKNESS I FELT NOT BEING ABLE TO DEAL WITH THE PAIN ON MY OWN - alone strong

"please give me some advice the pain i feel is excruciating and has taken my ability to live as intended away and i am at the end of my rope................" 

WEAKNESS I FELT NOT BEING ABLE TO DEAL WITH THE PAIN ON MY OWN

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Weakness.... i dunno.

on my own. yes.

It will wear you down. It wore me down. I can handle a large amount of pain all at once. but the steady drip of chronic pain is torture.

How long is someone supposed to endure a daily life of pain? 

Lets add measured perspective to this 

We will live to be 70, 80, 90, 100+. 

At least 35 years for me to go. 

35 years with 12 months in each year.

12 months with each having 30/31 days

Each years has 365 days. 12775 days is 35 years

ONE month has 30 days. one day has 24 hours. 60 seconds in the hour.

1 mississippi 2 mississippi 3 mississippi 4 mississippi 5 mississippi 

that was five seconds... 5 seconds of being in pain.

60 seconds x 60 minutes x 24 hours x 30 days x 12 months x 35 years

well that is about 1,088,640,000

over a billion of 1 mississippi

I do not think that I would call it weakness to NOT want to be in pain for one billion eighty-eight million six hundred forty thousand mississippi's

It is not a flaw in character or spirit. I do not know of anyone ever and I cannot imagine anyone who would want to endure any level of discomfort for that many mississippis. 

So weak is the last thing I would refer to you or myself or anyone who has chronic pain.

Quite the opposite. The strength you have had to have to endure it so far and to not be a complete mess. The fact that you  are (or I am) still standing, albeit a little hunched over and leaning on the counter, with a good majority of your marbles in your pocket still shows just how strong your character and spirit is.

ON MY OWN....

Aversion to negative stimuli is the second most  powerful motivator. Only the "mothers love" is stronger as demonstrated on countless lab mice and electricity. So it is not surprising that people do not want to empathize with pain. It does not become real to them because they will not willing to take the pain themselves. So yes, dealing with the pain will be a thing that is solitary, but dealing with it can include the use of opiates. 

Remember that it is by a doctors prescription and supervision. So alone you can deal with it, but you can get help dealing with it with the oxy so that while you are dealing with it, you can enjoy a quality of life that we are all entitled to as set forth by our forefathers and one of the reasons why we live in the countries that we do.

And in taking the pills, there is no weakness.

I invite anyone to show me one person in history that was willing to and did so happily take a literal measured lifetime of slow torture without cause.

Ya to the oxy

As for going without the meds, would you not take your heart medication if you had a heart condition? Would you not take synthroid if you had an underactive thyroid? If you had seisures, would you not take seizure medication to prevent them? 

So why would we not take medication that is designed for chronic pain if we have pain that last the rest of our lives?

Take the pill. Enjoy your life. Follow your doctors advise.

ability to live as intended - educating friends and family on chronic pain and the use of oxycontin and other opiods

"please give me some advice the pain i feel is excruciating and has taken my ability to live as intended away and i am at the end of my rope................"

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Ok. Shit happens, right? And pain sucks. But the medication works. Take it. You covered a lot of ground in your comment and I want to be able to comment on every one of your points and thoughts. 

But to start, if the friends that are opinionated are worth keeping, then take the time to educate them about it. Tell them about your condition and be honest about what it is like to be in pain. If it is someone who you are not too concerned about, fuk them. Seriously - they are not worth it and they will never care enough to empathize with your pain to really appreciate the treatment and its benefits. 

But the trick is in getting someone to understand what chronic pain is before they can understand the treatment.

I explained to a good and concerned friend one day... I said: 

"imagine having a really bad headache right now. A steady painful headache, like the ones you get from a hangover after drinking sweet white wine. The headache that moves with your body and thumps with your pulse and is in the forethought of everything and every second.

Keep that headache all day - thru your entire work day, with all the things you do at work and all the people you need to interact with - and then drive home with the headache, still thumping and aching. Have supper with it, spend time with your wife while having the headache, then go to bed with the headache. Sleep with the headache.

That is one day.

Then try to imagine that hangover headache being there to wake you up in the morning. Shower with it, have breakfast with it and go thru another day with it - work, lunch, work, home, supper, wife, kids, sleep – all 24 hours with the same damn headache. Sleep with the headache. 

Then do that for a third day, all day and all night.

Then do that for each and every day of the week including the weekend. 

After a full week with a nonstop really bad hangover headache, imagine how irritable you would be, how out of focus. Then keep the headache for another 7 days of work and weekend.

Then do that all over again for another week, and then another, with Saturady and Sunday, evenings included, and all thru your sleep with the same headache. 

After one month of a really bad headache, start the second month with the same headache, but maybe a little worse and shifted over a bit. And go thru each day of each week of the second month. 

It is easy to paraphrase it and just say “week” or “month”, and to make time pass, but with pain there is no jump ahead. Each hour passes on its own.  Each day you have to work and look after your responsibilities. Each day has 24 hours that have 60 minutes that have 60 seconds that pass like 1 mississippi 2 mississippi 3 mississippi 4 mississippi 5 mississippi 6 mississippi 7 mississippi 8 mississippi 9 mississippi 10 mississippi … each damn second passes in its own space of time. 

Keep the pain of the headache for another 30 days - 30 days with 24 hours in each day and 60 minutes in each hour and 60 seconds in each minute with the headache thumping with your pulse and banging with your movements. – 1 mississippi 2 mississippi…

Then do it all again for another 30 days (1 mississippi)... take the headache for 60 days. Take it 90 and then 120 days non-stop with a real bad hangover headache.

Imagine your doctor telling you that you will always have the headache. Forever. It will always be there for every waking moment.

It will never go away. 

At a point you realize that it just plain hurts a lot, all of the time. And that you are miserable, depressed. 

All you want is some time without the headache - an hour, minute or even a few seconds were there is no headache. Just a few seconds to feel normal."

Then I asked him to just take a few minutes to imagine everything he today and then in the last week, and add a headache to everything he did. 

“Now take a pill and it is all gone. Gone. No pain.”

He seemed to understand at that point. 

He could understand a bad headache and he could understand time. But he could not understand chronic pain until I did the math for him.